Saturday, February 22, 2014

Why Girls Should Not Marry a Rich Man:

Instead, you should BECOME a rich person, if that's your goal...

Your Looks are not a Worthwhile Investment:

Website is hardly the place most feminists would login to in order to satiate the need for a few interesting humanist pieces. However, I recently came across a brilliant story on this usually vaccuous website.


A woman titling herself 'Ms Pretty' wrote to a forum, asking advice on how to land a rich husband. She described herself as young and 'very pretty' and wanted (at least) a list of various restaurants and clubs rich (by her definition someone with an annual salary upwards of 500k) bachelors would frequent in New York City. 'Ms Pretty' also mentioned that she had style and good taste, presumably so any potential husbands reading her post could rest assured she would not embarrass them by wearing last seasons Manolos or buying fluoroescent orange zebra-print furniture for their future dream home.

Jacqueline Mars, third-generation part-owner of Mars Candy is worth $17 million.
The answer she recieved however, was not an in-depth listing of expensive clubs and restaurants where Donald Trump-wannabees and their designer-suit-wearing pals would be hanging out this friday night. It was, in fact, an in-depth analysis of her worth as an investment piece from the CEO of J.P Morgan which ultimately culminated in a big, fat, zero. Why? Because 'Ms Pretty' offered no other assets than her current beauty. To this J.P Morgan's CEO wrote:
'What you’re trying to do is an exchange of "beauty" and "money". Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year. Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset.'

J.K Rowling, author of the Harry Potter series has an estimated net worth of $1 Billion

He continued on to suggest that most people with money are in fact intelligent, often gaining their wealth through well-calculated decisions and an understanding of the operation of complex social and economic systems. Therefore they are not stupid and are not willing to 'buy' their partners. Perhaps the culture of mysogynistic wall-streeters so well depicted in the recent Martin Scorsese film 'the Wolf of Wall Street' is dying out. Why on Earth, when weighing up Ms Pretty's question logically, would they invest in her if all she is offering is not a partnership but an exchange of unequal worth. If Mr CEO were to marry her he would thus be feeding, housing and clothing her in (likely) ridiculously expensive brand names, and for what? Her fading beauty? Does Mr CEO even like her? If the answer is 'no' then Ms Pretty is likely to get kicked out of the Park Avenue townhouse and onto the street once the novelty of her looks wears off. In reality it's a lose-lose situation for all involved.

Money-manager Abigail Johnson has an estimated worth of $12 Billion

This CEO might seem like a bit of an asshole at first glance, however his argument is most definitely sound and logical. He goes on to write the following, and (hopefully) give Ms Pretty, as well as any other foolish young men and women out there, the massive dose of reality they need:

'I would advise that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool. Hope this reply helps.'
Basically he's telling her off for relying on her looks alone. She's young, she's pretty, and she expects this will get her what she wants. Perhaps for some it will, but others - like this CEO - need to work for their assets. Being 'pretty' is dependent on luck of the draw. Placing all ones worth on how attractive they are is an extremely unlikely gamble. However relying on talent, hard work, determination or entreprenuerial skill is a bet that just might pay off. And it's a lesson that people who have been brainwashed into thinking getting married or finding a partner is the answer to all their problems need to learn.


Facebook CEO Sheryl Sandberg has a theory about why there are less women in leadership roles than men, and it has to do with confidence. In one of her Tedx Talks Sandberg talks about women not believing that they have the same abilities as men. It's an internalised form of misogyny that has (unfortunately) been passed down through generations of women. Maybe your mum reminded you to put on make-up before work, or your Grandma constantly asks whether or not you're dating someone. Women have been taught to rely on their looks for decades, millenia even, ever since the advent of sexism, and it's rubbed off - how could it not have?

Sheryl Sandberg 'Why we have too few women leaders'

It's ingrained into us and has been for years, that women need men to get ahead. But in today's world we do not. At all. In fact, if we make a conscious collective effort to improve the confidence and skills of our sisters, daughters, mothers, friends and cousins, we can eventually manage to overcome the stigma we have placed upon ourselves and other women.

The less women we see asking how they can marry a man who will support them, and the more we see asking 'how can I land a CEO role myself?' or 'how can I start my own business/write a novel/own a home?' will only prove to be a good thing for the collective psyche of women everywhere.

So girls there you have it, from the CEO of JP Morgan Chase himself; don't marry a rich guy, become a rich person yourself. At least that way you'll be calling the shots.